Solid feedback, bug. Hope the desert is beautiful this fall. To answer your question "I don't think poorly of you and if I did, what would that mean for you?"
It would mean that I have even more reason to believe that there are people (like yourself) who do hard things for the right reasons. Probably also that while I don't "deserve" this divorce, my actions (and inaction) certainly made it possible.
However, after reading your whole post, I just feel like my feet are warm, not yet toasty. My basic sentiment remains the same. You are a woman of incredible grace. I'll take it. (Also, thanks for introducing me to the Gottman stuff.)
Meanwhile, peaceful day. D8 is out with W getting ears pierced. W is going for coffee after with a mutual friend who is flabbergasted by our upcoming D, but will be a neutral party when we need babysitting, backup, etc.
I will try to get a nap.
Me: 43 XW: 43 T15 M14 D21, SS15, S11, D8 BD: 8/6 EA / possible PA discovered 9/29 D final 10/20