My dilemma this week is confronting the financial reality of our situation. For the last two months, I have paid rent, car payment, babysitter, gas bill and probably 80% of groceries bought out of my new individual account. W has made incidental purchases for the kids but nothing else substantial. I'm barely making it work (though I am enjoying the confidence boost from handling this on my own). Yesterday W mentioned wanting to get some winter wear for the baby but not being able to because she's "broke", which I believe.
She's still somewhat haphazardly searching for apartments. Who will pay for this, I don't know, but it's not me. Her intention seemed to be to save her paychecks to do this, which I'm fine with, but it's clear it's not happening.
My paycheck this week will go entirely to bills and groceries. She needs to pay the babysitter. I've paid every week since establishing my own account. I'd like to bring this up with her, but it runs counter to my very successful strategy of avoiding all conversations with her, acting as if, and handling everything with positivity, independence and strength. I suppose I can simply ask her how she feels about making this payment, but I am wary of it turning into a convo about the elephant in the room, eg WTH are we doing right now. She is in la la land and I am content to leave her there while working on myself, but she is skating past all th tough responsibilities right now. On the one hand I'm ready to be patient, on the other, she could just take advantage of this sitch for a long time.
Ideas anyone?
M: 33 W: 33 M: 9 T: 10 3 S's: 8, 6 and 1.5 BD: 8/3/14 Living together
