Newcomer living in Hell

[bravo61]

I've seen some posters have had D papers file on them and then w/drawn. Just curious ,esp if they were WAS, how did they start to soften and let y'all know they were moving back towards you? Wonder if I can find a common thread from several success stories of like behavior to look for so if I see it I can have a plan and not push too hard yet subtly leave the door open. I'm sure the WAS doesn't want to lose face when they come back. My W would have to face a lot of her friends and admit she was wrong. What slight nudges or phrases did y'all use that worked that didn't put you out there too far (pursuing)? Especially curious for those that did divorce and reconciled. Thanks and PLEASE HELP!!!