I have read DR and would like to hear from people who are separated and their spouse is having an affair. I have no contact with H and understand that I need to wait for him to initiate contact. But how long do I wait? Last week I asked him to make arrangements with D23 and D18 when he wants to see them and to meet them away from our home. I made this request so that I won't have to experience falling apart (in front of him) each time he leaves. Also I told him I could not see him while he is involved with OW. I'm wondering if it was a mistake to do this because now I have absolutely no contact with H and he will be unable to see any changes I'm making in myself.
Me: 54 H: 58 Married: 29 years Together 33 years H admitted to A: 5/29/14 H moved out :6/15/14 OW lives 4 hours away and "occasionally" stays weekends with H D23 D18
