Ooooohhhh... Shining!! I'm so sorry. I feel for you. But this is about him and his insecurities. He needs someone else to try to validate his worth. It is meaningless.
You are so right to not feel threatened. There is no reason to. She, whomever she is, can't hold a candle to you. He knows that- somewhere in his mixed up, confused, sad cranium.
Let her deal with the sad mess that he is right now. You keep getting stronger and better. You will make it.
I know the hurt, sting, pain, and confusion. It just does not make sense to us. Nor to them. We just wish we could change it. It is such of loss of control over what we thought was our lives. But that is why we have to focus on what we can control, not what we can't.
You have an amazing trip coming up. That may be just what you need. I know it can be hard to fully enjoy things when we have crazy taking up space in our minds. Try to live in the moment and enjoy it. You know that whatever you are doing will be much more enjoyable than what he is doing.
Try not to focus on it, Shining. I know it's hard. But it is meaningless. It's a joke. You are the real deal and that is why you are going to carry on and do you.
