20...that reduces the anxiety. If you are ok personally, and in your company, financially. But, long term, that's money for your children's education, etc.
We need a vet to weigh in. Should 20&lost shut down the joint account, separate the draw into two separate accounts, and agree with W on who pays which bills? Or should he just ignore it as "business as usual?"
Man, I'm glad I am not in business with my W right now. I know that adds a layer of complexity, 20. But the basics remain the same. DB your behind off, 180, GAL, PMA. You are here because you want to save your marriage. That starts by saving/improving/discovering your self.
Me: 43 XW: 43 T15 M14 D21, SS15, S11, D8 BD: 8/6 EA / possible PA discovered 9/29 D final 10/20