Thought we were happy...Until!! I need advice!

[Shakspr]

Just wanted to let you know you are being heard. Many others are in a situation similar to yours. However, here's the basics.

What do you need to do to work on you?

List here, in detail, what you believe you have done to contribute to your H's behavior. This doesn't condone it, but it does give you a good place to start. And the veterans on the board can give you pointers.

I am very sorry to hear that the in-laws are somehow turning a blind eye or are being supportive of your H's actions. Ignore them until they reach out to you, and let your son know that they may be just as confused by your H's actions as you are. Do not place blame.