The tone is calmer from me and unchanged from my wife. Honestly, outside of money and family logistics there aren't many big ticket items that we discuss at the moment. Her job search has consumed much of our attention so the bulk of our discussions revolve around this and how it will affect our family (location, pay, childcare, etc.).
Me: 31, W: 29 T: 4 M: 2 Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3) Separated, still living together: Nov 2013 Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014 W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014