It's always tough when the WAS talks plans that don't include you in them. Good for you for choosing the positive route in this instance. It's also nice to see that she's calling so you can talk to the kids. My WAW texts the kids through me and doesn't really say much to me these days, but I will take the fact that she texts at all as a positive.
As Cadet said, make sure you eat, sleep, and exercise during this time. As a soldier, I imagine you're already in pretty good shape, but keep it up. A good workout goes a long way to improving your mental state of mind. Same with sleep. It may be hard to sleep because the moment you wake up, it's the first thing that pops in your mind, but rest when you can.
Looking forward to reading more as your situation develops. Have you read or had a chance to order Divorce Remedy?
M:35 W:31 S: 9 D: 5 M: 11.5 yrs BD: 5/13 W moved out: 7/13
