Um, if she is using shared marital funds to support an OP's lifestyle, it's time to take steps. I don't know what steps.
Do you have business funds that are separate from personal funds, or is your business unincorporated/informal? Either way, it may be time to separate some things.
Can I get a vet to weigh in? My responses, while more measured of late, tend to be a little off.
Me: 43 XW: 43 T15 M14 D21, SS15, S11, D8 BD: 8/6 EA / possible PA discovered 9/29 D final 10/20