Hey Eric, Well in answer to why i let D14 stay 50/50 with my W and I...at the time I was still very much in "I don't think W will actually go through with this" mind set. She hadn't filed yet and was actually saying she wasn't planning to, that she was thinking a "separation". She was VERY adamant about 50/50 and when I said that 7 days/7 days may not be best she freaked out and said I was trying to "take my D away from me". She said at the time that if I didn't agree to at least try this she would ask for the house to be sold and if i would agree to at least try it and see how it went I could keep the home as she didn't want it and she would keep all the other things like her retirement and 403B's, etc. This is one of the reasons I was so PO'd when I got the paperwork from her lawyer that said i could only live in the home until D14 turned "18 + one day"! I really thought that having the home she grew up in for at least part of the time would be good for my D14 and at the time my D19 was still planning on staying with me. If I had known what I do now, I never would have agreed to it. Heck, I wouldn't have agreed to a lot of things!
When I said "This is a 180" I didn't mean a 180 for me, I meant for HER. She was wanting D14 and the dog to ALWAYS be a set. For her to say I needed to check if D14 was staying if she wanted the dog as well, was a "180" from what she wanted before now. Sorry if I wasn't clear. As for wanting my W "back", I really think that ship has sailed. Now, if by some miracle, she started to come out of her MLC and actually was able to see the damage she has done and actually want to do the work she would need to have a M, I might be open to trying. But you know as well as I do how unlikely that is to happen in time to stop this D from actually happening. We've been M 21 years and together 26. The way she is now isn't who she was for 90% of that time.
50% custody of the dog is a great idea! I really miss the one dog she has totally claimed as "hers"!
