Actually most people that have given me the "at least she's young" speech are well-wishing outsiders.
Yeah, my favorite are "Kids are resilient." Yes, they seem to be at the time, but isn't a basic psychological tenet to look at one's childhood later in life? That's where we are stepping up as parents and understand we need to help them through a situation that they themselves have no control over. Hopefully they can look back when their older and understand that this time in their lives, while difficult, showed how much we love them. I'm definitely following your thread as it seems like our sitch's are very similiar.
