I understand your fears completely. I often see my situation of three against one. Especially since there was no hostility in our marriage that I saw, nor did the kids see it. Our kids (4,5) constantly ask me questions about the future and it breaks my heart that I can't currently help them with that. That translates into me hating the time that I can't spend with them. I myself can't even anticipate that feeling far into the future so I can empathize with them. During my BD, I said to my wife that this isn't a decision for one person, its for four people. Its ashame as parents, we can't even come to agreement on what is best for them. While we're all struggling with not being able to decide with our spouses what is best, each and everyone one of is us here is fighting what we feel is best and we need to take solace that is a big part of what a great parent does for their kids. That's all we can do right now and their future and our own personal futures are out of our hands. So we can't let that get in the way of the present. Its tough, and I think I should heed my own words
