I am enjoying the lightheartedness here, I really am. And as much as I would love to give the guy a nickname and a bad review on Yelp, I doubt that will help my cause. Personalizing him won't help. This affair is a symptom. My W felt unloved and marginalized in our marriage. Whether or not I tried to work on that doesn't matter. So old HS Facebook friend comes along and says all the right things, plays it smooth when she pulls back, and then [censored] her back in. In spite of all this, he's not the reason my marriage is in the tank. She and I failed to make our marriage impermeable to that crap.
And now I will watch her go. She's in better shape than she's been in ages. She's forthright and sexy and "getting work done" right out of the MLC playbook. And she's doing it all for herself, with her eye on someone new and shiny. Does it suck? Absolutely.
But I ain't all that bad, and I'm getting better. Gotta wait it out. Gotta learn. And if she can't won't see it down the line...I will learn to live with it.
Me: 43 XW: 43 T15 M14 D21, SS15, S11, D8 BD: 8/6 EA / possible PA discovered 9/29 D final 10/20
I doubt that will help my cause. Personalizing him won't help. This affair is a symptom. My W felt unloved and marginalized in our marriage. Whether or not I tried to work on that doesn't matter. So old HS Facebook friend comes along and says all the right things, plays it smooth when she pulls back, and then [censored] her back in. In spite of all this, he's not the reason my marriage is in the tank. She and I failed to make our marriage impermeable to that crap.
