I hear you Shakespr. And I agree - since H moved out - I actually think I've been a better parent to my kids.
I actually condensed my fears around the kids into "reduced time with them" but of course there's a lot more too it than that.
I worry that my kids will have to constantly shuttle back and forth between households and won't feel that they have a single, comforting "real" home.
I worry that I won't be able to provide the life that we originally planned for them.
I too worry about the influence of potential stepmothers.
I worry that this will affect their adult relationships.
And so on...and so on.. and so on....
I know that there are many kids who turn out perfectly well from divorced households. Some of them are on these boards. It just seems like the odds got a lot harder.
It's something I need to work on - if this all comes to pass, I can't let my fears affect my daughters.
