Anyone else got experience of dealing with friends who were in on the A before you were?
Maybe not a similar situation to yours, but about 5-6 mos into our S, while I thought something was up between W and OM, but she continued to deny it, one of my friends ran into W, OM and a group of friends at a bar. I had spoken to him before, so he knew what the deal was. The issue I had was that W was also with 2 of her girlfriends, who were like family to me.
I was furious that they knew, hadn't told me and even went with W (showing support in my eyes) to meet up with OM. I fired them off a nasty email saying I questioned their friendship. I barely spoke to them after that, up until a couple mos ago when I decided I was done being upset with them. I asked if they'd be willing to meet to discuss, knowing we'd have to agree to disagree on things.
The discussion was awkward at first, but I think all 3 of us were glad we got past it. They stated that while they did not agree with W's decisions, it was not their place to tell her right from wrong. They actually told me how respectful and impressed they were with my actions this past yr, acting as a single father to our 3 kids.
