Eric... where are you? (Tx for giving me permission to contact you off site)
Things seem to be rolling along & others are commenting that they notice that my X seems to be changing/more relaxed.
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Yesterday, he went out of town, I gave an excuse to stay behind and not be convenient/available. When he returned he asked if I wanted to go out for a drink with him and our mechanic/friend. I was still eager to get out & be with other people so I jumped at his offer. He asked me to meet at his place to wait for our friend to show up. Once there, I gave him his b-day gift & we were lounging relaxing on the bed. Opposite ends. He made sure that his leg entwined with mine & then he placed his hand on my foot. Light convo. I remembered that I needed to look for my birth certificate, but forgot as we left. He remembered & said when I get back I can look again.
We went for drinks with our friend. Our friend seems to be living a happy married life & knows how to separate work from life even though his shop is on his property. He was commenting that he has noticed that my Xbf is more relaxed and casual, not so stressed since buying the property.
After drinks, I went back to his place... along the ride I mentioned how I wanted to get my birth certificate. He said I could take a good look another time, if I wanted. I said, that I think I know where it was and prefer to get it now. I asked if that was ok and he said sure. When I got in, it wasn't in the drawer I assumed it would be... He suggested to try another drawer (my stuff was moved) and it was. I was a little upset going through my stuff but didn't make a fuss about it and asked for a half glass of wine. When he returned with my wine, he sat on the bed & started to massage my shoulders, neck & back. I reciprocated back massaging his legs & feet. At one point he sat facing me & started kissing me. At this point I had finished my wine & said "well, I guess I should get going...its getting late (9:30)" He said "its early". It was difficult, but I pulled myself out of that situation and began to leave. He informed me that he was "in the mood" but did not pressure or ask me to stay. Its my choice to leave. I told him that we could have "flirt chat/sex" over the phone... that it would be fun... But, he wasn't into doing that... maybe another time.
Admittingly, I was disappointed that he didn't want to do what I wanted to do.
I wasn't sure how to handle that rejection. He asked me to text when I got in. So, I did. I also sent a text saying "thanks for sharing and a sad face"... He replied "your welcome & cheers"
Its odd, but I do feel him warming up to me & wanting to be with me more.
Last edited by makingmagic; 10/10/1401:26 PM.
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
