In limbo, need to figure out next steps (thread #5

[shodan]

One thing I forgot to mention...when I spoke with my W earlier this week, she said something about people just staying in unhappy marriages. She said "do all of these people just stay in marriages for their kids?" I said some might but others work at their marriages.

I mention this b/c it is another sign that my W is reconsidering her initial stance that she wanted a D but also that she does not see "happiness/marital bliss" with me. Clearly, she has very strong feelings for the OM. And right now she may see no good solution. Either stop the one thing that makes her feel good or lose her family/marriage (but a marriage for which she has no feelings).

Like an addict, she has to hit rock bottom to stop. Perhaps this will be when we go through the D process, or after. Or maybe she never hits rock bottom.