@ Wounded,,,,Great idea beat him to the basement. Im sure the look on his face would be worth it alone.

@ Daring,,It's a 180 for me to be available and really present in the moment for sex. Previously I allowed other issues/things to get in the way of how I responded and I sometimes used it as a punishment,,,if H was not acting like I wanted, I would withhold sex and all affection. Forgave myself and praying that H will be able to one day...but if not it will be his lost.

I'm stronger each day, got so much of my confidence back...H MLC's has open my eyes to many issues I had that I needed and continue to work on. It has helped me in other relationships.

Its crazy that his MLC has not only open my eyes to the type of wife I was,,,but it force me to look deep inside me and that helped in me in many ways.

This MLC hurts like hell at times, but it has been a blessing in disguise. The praying, the reading, the sessions with Pastor...not sure if I would have ever really looked at myself this hard if not for this situation.



I know Im a better person all the way around, I know I've changed for the better. Thank GOD


Me 43 ring off Oct 2014 (my ring back on Feb 2015)
H 51 (ring off 7/2013)
M 2007 T 1996
S 14
July 2013- H told me he was unhappy.....said he is staying for Son
Feb 18 2014 Found out about OW