Newcomer living in Hell

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Any vets out there see any good signs for me? She has said as recently as Aug that she struggles w/this and has cried in my presence several times. She has also told me she loves me a couple of times. She watches me like a hawk & is continually testing me & still needs her daily affirmation from friends that's"you've got this". She also made the comment the other day bout having a hard time seeing herself being happy anywhere. Read my thread and PLEASE give some ideas. We also have a road trip planned in 1 1/2 weeks for 4 days. I'm not nervous at all bout it as its a chance to show me off in a stressful situation (road trip w/2 kids and a WAS). Ladies, any ideas? Funny thing is, I get hit on all the time here in the Pacific NW (Southern charm & accent). She has also been planning this since Feb(walking away) but still struggles. Yet she has said some of the worst things & is trying to get this D done ASAP. Help!!!