EA then PA with her ex

[Anaru]

I decided on the DR book partly based on recommendations from the forums here.
I do have a fairly clear idea of the implications of D for myself and W - and it carries a high cost for both of us in may senses not just moneywise.
Am prepared to consider S and have been on the point of asking her to move out a couple of times but DR process seems to be working well so I am giving it time to work through.
Starsky - I understand your message. W accepts that she must conclude the A and she seems to want to find her way out of the fog. She has 20+ yr of idealization, 18 mo of EA and 6 mo of PA to unwind/wrap up in her mind. So what I see right now is her struggling to do that, some of which she needs to talk thru with OM. It does not *look* like she is just continuing the A (as I see it right now)
25years - I have been getting counselling on and off since last year. My mother died Aug2013 and that combined with W seeing OM in EA was just too much for me to cope with.
MC was mostly for me - W attended 2 or 3 sessions but it was just making it worse - she was in the throes of falling from EA into PA so her mind had been abducted by aliens anyway.
MC here more or less along same lines as DB (I live in Europe)- so I have taken what is useful from that and combined it with DR book and support from this forum.
Considering DB phone session - though right now I do not have too many open questions to deal with - I have my action plan.