But I think it's time he started communicating to you respectfully. His last text message was obnoxious.
"U can continue to be angry but need to respond when it comes to the kids."
Did you tell him you were angry?
No!
But the next thing you know--you are defending a behavior you weren't engaging in. "I'm not angry..."
Was this how he communicated during your marriage? Did he set the terms of conversations and if you disagreed...it was your burden to disprove his hypothesis?
This type of behavior is extremely dismissive and would make me very, very angry.
I like the way you respond to your ex. But I would love you to start calling him on his obnoxiousness.
For example when he sent the text...
"U can continue to be angry but need to respond when it comes to the kids."
...I wouldn't have said anything about the anger comment until the end of the text. And then I would have said:
"Please note I strongly disliked your comment that I "continue to be angry." I do not understand why this comment was in your text as it appears to serve no purpose but to actually "anger" me. I would strongly appreciate it if you would refrain from engaging in this type of behavior in future text messages. Thank you."
