Maybe try calling your H “teacher” instead of idiot.
That's a tough one for me. Although I believe I will learn about myself and life through this life lesson I have a hard time attributing it to him as a teacher. To me, a teacher is a person I would look up to and who is knowingly trying to make me better and learn something. I do not think either of these things about H. Interesting perspective, though, I'll think on it.
Originally Posted By: ericmsant2
I would like to ask you a question. Beside trying to outlast your H’s crisis …and beside working on the legal aspect of getting D’ed. What is YOUR plan for YOUR life for the next 30 days? Can you bullet it out for me?
Also a hard question. I have been wrestling with the fact that I really do not know who I am, outside of his wife, mother to my kids and lover of God. That being the case, I don't know what my life needs to look like. I think if I had to figure it out I would say:
* Throw an amazing birthday party for D4 as I always do, and try not to worry about whether or not H will attend and how to deal with the R questions that will inevitably come up from all sides of the family.
* Do my testing and assessment to go back to college as I planned. Get enrolled in an online class or 2 for the next semester that I can.
* Continue looking for ways I can reduce my cost of living so that I can survive when H cannot afford to pay me this winter, which I believe will happen at some point.
* Be an awesome Mom to my kids and deepen and strengthen my bond in long-lasting ways with each of them.
* Continue with my bible study and deepen my relationship with the Lord so that I know I can fully rely on Him and His plan for my life, regardless of if H and I reconcile.
* Get some Christmas shopping done so that I already have a holiday to look forward to.
* Go out and have some fun at some point with my girlfriends. Just to let loose a little (if I can).
I think that's about all I can come up with now, and maybe even more than I can actually do.
Me- 40 H- 41 S8, D5, S4 M 19 y T 23 Bomb drop 6/2013 H asked for/filed for D 9/2014 22 yo OW discovered 9/19/14 they're engaged and living together
