Crimson....piece by piece by piece......

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I am profoundly aware of the number of people that are scattered across the boards in search of good news or good developments in a story that was once beyond hopeless.

As noted, XW and I have been gradually getting closer over the span of the last 3 months or so. Lots of time together as a family, joint counseling, and many, many, many long late night talks. It has been much slower than our last attempt – and that has been a big difference maker for both of us. We have both grown a lot, changed a lot and are basically not the same people that divorced – which is a good thing.

I have applied no pressure for anything…relationship…living together….I have just been content to let things organically evolve while just living differently. Well, to cut to the chase she has been living at the house for the last two weeks and is moving stuff from her place back home. All of this was with no prompting or suggestion from me. In fact, when she got a little anxious about moving some of her clothes the other day while I was there I just softly told her she didn’t have to move anything and could take all the time she wants – or even move the stuff that was already there back. She worked through her emotions and continues to move.

So anyone who has been following my situation probably remembers the saga of the bed I bought her when she first moved out of the house to her own place. Today, she gave it away to a family along with the bunk bed that our son had at her place. Basically that means home is now our house together – unless they are going to sleep on the floor. J

There was a major breakthrough this week and the affection from her just opened up a ton. It was as if big chunks of the wall around her heart began to fall. It was out of the blue and the last thing I expected – even she commented on how she just felt “different”. Still, there is a lot to keep working on – and she started HER IC today. My IC, her IC and our joint IC are all in the same practice so it is literally a “village” approach!

That is all for now. Things are going well. We are all heading up to a cabin in the mountains tomorrow for the weekend. Off-grid bliss.

That’s all I’ve got for now.

Crimson

Great news, Crim!

Your approach to getting back together was much like ours, slowly as the time seemed right. No pressure, no guilt.

We were going to the mtns this month (our anniversary is Oct 20th) but decided to go to hot springs in NM. Can't wait!

Let me know about the cabin, we're always looking for a good getaway up north. Have a wonderful time! I'm really so, so happy for you but especially for S.