Not much progress

[PeterV2]

i feel used , disrespected , tortured , abused in so many ways i cant count

Don't we all. That's the nature of the beast. However if we act on those feelings it'll just drive a wedge into the M. That's where the 180 works. Not acting on those feelings seems so counterintuitive. Like we're being a doormat. But believe me, keeping detached from the sitch and focusing on other areas of your life that are not in turmoil is the only way to get through this. You can do it Dawgy. It takes kahunas and many don't have the stomach for it, but working the program is your only chance.

10 months is a drop in the bucket. It may take 2-5 years to get back to where you want to be. Definitely not for the faint of heart. But the potential reward is a marriage better and with more depth and passion than you ever had before. Like we say, it is indeed a marathon. Patience, discipline and focus will get you through it. We're all going or have gone through many of the same emotions and challenges. I know it s*cks. Keep up the PMA.