I said this ONCE to my DB coach early on and that was the onl time she really hit my with a 2x4. She replies "there is nothing more important in your life right now. You cannot be too busy."
Councling can take an hour a week. In the case of a DB coach it can be over the phone.
Look at it this way- if your W said she'd reconcile with you if you agreed to 1 hour/week of C for 6 months, would you do it? If not, that's not much commitment. But if you WOULD agree to that, then realize- she'll never come out and make that offer. But if you get the help you need ON YOUR OWN then you MIGHT have a shot at the outcome you want.
Of course, if you're happy to be single with a good sob story for your buddies that are telling you not to bother then don't worry about it.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
