6 Months Down the Line

[KGirl]

Yes - without kids (at least, non-adult ones) it feels different because there aren't opportunities for conversation, connection,to show what we've changed,etc. H and I periodically email or text about bills or things like that but those go something like "I'm forwarding you the water bill, below" and he replies "OK, thanks." And that's it. I really don't want to be in a situation like your X's parents where you're in limbo for so long, but I wonder where the line is between where we are, and where they are? My H's parent situation is also interesting and I wonder how that influences him. MIL has essentially told me they are just married for convenience, and that when the kids were younger she had actually approached her pastor about D and pastor said "God wants you to be married for a reason." She said he is a good grandfather (not a good father) so maybe that's the reason? MIL, SIL,and H have even had conversations in front of me about how they hoped his smoking/drinking would kill him sooner rather than later so MIL could potentially meet someone new. They are only married because divorce is "bad." H had told me around BD that he didn't want to end up like his parents so that's why he had to do this... I still don't see what about us reminded him of his parents, but maybe any M would stress him out/make him feel that way regardless of how good or bad it was.