Just to clarify-- I have access to joint accounts, but I do not have access to his individual accounts which may or may not have co-mingled $$. I don't know.
And I definitely don't know how he's managing his brokerage accounts which are legally partly mine since he comingled the $$.
We haven't really discussed finances since BD-- all expenses have stayed status quo. In fact, he pays my cable/home phone bill-- I don't have access to that account! I will ask about that one.
He makes way more than me so financially it is probably in my best interest to keep things as is. He is paying most of the bills. I think he'd jump at the chance to move forward with separation if I drove it. But I suspect (mind reading) that he a) feels overwhelmed at work;; b) guilty and c) still a bit ambivalent -- afraid to move forward but afraid to move towards me.
But now that nearly a year has passed, you're right-- I have to face some realities. There have been some significant (small, but significant) positives lately...but is that enough? Dunno.
25years, wonka, labug--what do you think?
I'm not going to give you answers about the money stuff, I'm thinking that's a smokescreen for "I want to know WTH is going on and when will this be over."
I'm going to give you the answer that, although it p!ssed me off when I continued to read it, it is the only answer.
This is over when you say it's over.
And by your asking the question here, I would guess that you're not done yet.
Focus on the good in your life and keep making it better. Do things that make you happy.
((( )))
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
