It doesn't feel like a fairytale anymore...

[fthnluv]

Boy, this journey sure is a rollercoaster. I had really bad days then followed by a pretty good day a couple of days ago and then yesterday was pretty bad, emotionally, again. I normally like rollercoasters, but not this one!

When I last spoke to H he advised that his attorney was not going to move forward with the D until we could settle some of the financial issues. I knew hat there was another form that needed to be filed with the courts before the next stage would start and that I would need to respond to that in a timely manner. I had held off in retaining an attorney (although I spoke to multiple) in hopes that I wouldn't have to fight this. I told H that he needed to confirm that nothing new would be filed because if I got blindsided by more paperwork I would fight the date of separation. H said he would check and let me know. Today I decided to call the court and see if the next form, the "affidavit" had been filed. It was filed on 10/3, Friday, the very day I spoke to H. Why do they lie about EVERYTHING?

I called and retained the attorney I spoke to back in PA and he is going to get the paperwork and call and speak to H's attorney. He says that 99.9% of divorces are not granted until after all the martial assets and debts are figured out anyway so he does not think we have to be in a huge hurry but I don't want to lose the opportunity to contest the date of separation because in PA you cannot unilaterally D until you have been separated 2 years. I am contesting this for 2 reasons, 1. It is just plain wrong, and I have to live with this lie for the rest of my life and I want to say I did the right thing. 2. If we go by his date he can get the D before we get the tax situation settled and I will be stuck with a $20k bill that I cannot afford to pay. If we get the D delayed we will have the time to work that out with the IRS as we had been working on.

Ugh. I'm just so annoyed by all the lies.