I spoke with my DB coach yesterday. I caught her up on the texts that I read, my convos with my wife and that I have decided to pursue a D. She agreed that my W likely is waffling (based on the texts, her decreased time in NYC, etc.) but that she needs to make a decision and get off of the fence. She did suggest that since my W is spending considerably less time with the OM, I should create opportunities to show my W what she will be missing and try to create some emotional connection...fun family events, nice and fun conversations, etc. . But this ONLY works if I continue to pursue a D or else it will just be cake eating.
This would be an odd mix of strategies. At this late hour, I think either you're going to try to "Plan A" her or go hard-core, after-the-LRT "Plan B." To try to do both is only going to mess with your head, detachment-wise.
I do think there are things you can continue to do to show your fun side (your whispered comment at yoga is a perfect example), WHEN the opportunity presents itself. But I wouldn't recommend you pursue or plan those opportunities.
I guess I'll have to agree to disagree with your coach on this one.
