I need talking off a ledge here. I am having a hard time with limbo this week.
Here is what I would love to write to my H: Although I enjoy spending time with you and as a family, that is not something I'm interested in doing right now if there is no possibility of us working on our relationship. I will always be friendly toward you -- that is in our best interest, as well as in our daughter's best interest. However, if you are truly done, then I need some time and space to myself. If you don't know yet, that is fine -- but if you do know and are just afraid to tell me, I would rather that you just told me.
But I know this would not be wise, right? Because I'm supposed to enjoy the gift of time so that his feelings can evolve, right? Argh. I hate limbo!
Must be the day for thinking too much about limbo land .
I'm in a similar dilemma want to contact W to find out what she wants but know this is not the correct thing to do as it's been only 3 weeks since she left for the second time .
Wish we all had crystal balls and time machines .
And I'm resisting contact or putting any pressure because like you say it's not wise .
Have re read sandis rules and also an article on detachment if only to take my mind from thinking to much about W.
Last edited by South74; 10/09/1412:03 PM.
Me 40 W 37 Together 22 years S18 D12 WaW 12/08/14 after affair exposed , suspected for several months W returned home for 2 weeks to see if can handle family life After the 2 weeks she has left .
