afraid I have waited too long #4

[nit84]

I need to get people's opinion on this.

A great family which is mutual friends to both the W and I just had their 4mo old baby pass away.

When I knew that he was not doing well I reached to the family to offer my support and Prayers. I am assuming my W did the same. They know we are S but don't know my W has moved out recently.

For 3 days I kept in contact with the Family to try and lend support.

The Baby passed the other evening. I didn't find out till the next morning.

When I checked my E-mail that morning. I see my W e-mailed the prior Evening to say the Baby had passed. Since it was 12 hrs later I responded thanks for letting me know and how heartbroken I was for the family.

After I responded, I wondered if I did the right thing by doing so.

I did then reach out to the family to express my condolences.

My W has had contact with this family only 2 times since Our S began according to what they tell me.

I hope I am wrong but it feels like my W is using this tragedy to contact me and Gauge how upset I am with her after the "smash and Grab" moving style she showed 2 weeks ago.

This passing of this Baby brings back bad memories of 4 yrs ago when the same thing happened to another mutual friend of ours, which if you been following my thread from the beginning is where I had finally realized that My W and I needed to start a family of our own.

I know at the Funeral and Memorial Service there is a good Chance I will see my W for the 1st time in 2 weeks.

I am there for the Baby's family and will treat it as such.

I would like to know though if I should just sit by myself or ask my W if she would like to sit with me?

Or let it play and see if she decides by herself to sit with me?

Thoughts appreciated