If I had to describe my H while he was seeing another woman while also wanting to work things out with me right before and after our son was born last year, I would have said bi-polar. Only in hindsight do I see why one minute he'd cry on the phone about wanting 'us' but then not answer my call the next day. He'd literally go to a couples therapist with her, call me crying to come back, and then blow me off for lunch. He was all over the place emotionally, a mess.
That bi-polar behavior stopped when he gave up the OW and chose to come home. The tough part is letting them choose you and your marriage at their own pace, and keeping a positive, nothing- you- can-say-or-do attitude while you wait.
Let his ups and downs roll off your back like drops of water. Be confident and smile like you are contagiously happy. You are the better choice.
BD: Aug 2012 Separated since May 2013 S born Aug 2013 Aug 2013 H agrees to consider 'baby steps toward working things out' H is/was actively seeing someone?
