Again this morning she had some snippy comments and jabs. This time I calmly said, could you please watch the negative comments, I feel attacked the last several days and I'm sure the girls would appreciate it if we were more positive around them. She made another snippy comment in response but later in the day when I saw her she completely apologized and admitted it was rude and she'd work on it. That was nice. Being calm and soft payed off.

Yesterday afternoon, a long time friend of mine was over helping me with my truck when she came home with the kids. He is partially aware of the situation and made some unbiased observations about the way we interacted with each other and what was said. I didn't much like what he had to say actually, because I thought I was doing pretty good. Apparently not. He said "you're both doing it but you gotta suck it up and be the bigger person, man." Ouch. Well I made some huge changes in my communication with her today and I can tell she immediately noticed. Gotta work on my mouth for sure. Been into the same habits for so long gonna take some extra work on my part.

Me 47 - W 35
M 9 - T 10
2 Daughters - 7 & 9
Discovery of EA- 8/4/14
S - 8/5/15
D mentioned - 9/11/14
R & Piecing - 3/17/15
Regard one another as more important than yourselves.
- Philippians 2:3