Quick update on GAL: This weekend I spent time with 5 different friends.
...Tonight I am going to a concert for a band I've heard of that sounds fun.
...I played tennis twice this weekend.
Looking for feedback: Spoke to my relatively new IC today. He suggested that I cannot stay in limbo forever, and that one of the problems with my marriage has been the poor communication... Thoughts?
Could you help me understand how meeting with friends makes you a better you and more interesting? Do you have antisocial issues you need to overcome?
Could you also explain how going to a movie is a GAL activity that will help you reconcile with the person you love?
I can understand tennis.
As to your IC saying that you have a communication problem, I like what Schnarch says about couples who counselors say have communications problems. He points out that they probably communicate so perfectly that they don't need words to express their feelings and know their partners feelings as they have fought over the same things for most of their relationship.
My favorite folklore statement is that if all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail. Most (not all) counselors have extensive training in teaching communication skills, which is why I prefer Gottman or Sue Johnson trained marriage counselors.
Good luck. You might want to reread the DB book and see how you can implement some of its concepts.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
