I noticed that in an earlier thread you wrote this about a 180.
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Trying to figure out where to pull a 180 is challenging. I know that prior to all this, my husband was fond of saying things like "he married up" - and somewhere along the way he lost all admiration and respect for me. I know one of the issues in the marriage is that I probably avoided conflict and let all the little things go that were bothering me - but doing a 180 on that one and directly addressing things that bother me directly now - seems to run counter to the whole concept of detaching and LRT.
Then today you wrote this...
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However we have never made any contsructive attempt to resolve these issues. I am willing to do that with you, but you are in another relationship.
I am curious why you said to him "in another relationship" and why not call it what it really is.. AN AFFAIR?????
Was this to avoid conflict again? To me there is a huge difference in the way you addressed that. Maybe calling it what it really is would gain back some respect from him for you. It doesn't have to be said in a mean way, however I think it should be said in a matter of fact way. He's having an affair. It is what it is....
