I would think they apply to those on here trying to help others...
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You Are The Experts, You Set The Goals.... Another reason traditional therapy can be uncomfortable is that a trademark of many of these approaches is confrontation. The therapist boldly confronts clients about behavior considered self-destructive or unproductive. Sometimes these attacks occur before a person is willing to deal with an issue or are totally inconsistent with a person's self concept. Naturally this harsh and dissonant feedback is disturbing and, in my experience, rarely effective in helping a person change. Typically, one digs one's heels in deeper when feeling attacked.
Confrontation is not necessary during therapy. Most people take the initiative to address issues and concerns they are willing to change. If they don't raise certain issues, it's because they are not willing or ready to deal with them. Therapists should respect people's intuitive sense of direction and self-protection and follow the clients lead.
