Newcomer living in Hell

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Have you ever seen the Stockdale Paradox mentioned around here? I heard it for the first time today. It should be in the next DB book. It's worth a Google, at least, but here is the short version:

You must retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties.

AND at the same time…

You must confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.

Btw, it was developed by a guy who survived 8 years of POW and torture. That makes our sitches seem like heaven, and yet this mentality worked for him. So it will definitely work for us. And your reality is this: you have a WAW making a dash for seemingly greener pastures.

If you had to put your sitch in terms of this paradox, what would it look like? What is your hope for your M, and more importantly what is your hope for YOU as an individual man. What do you believe will happen someday? But at the same time, what are the brutal realities of your sitch? Lay it all out and face it. I don't interpret it as "dwell in misery" but "face reality, process it, learn from it".