WAW + divorce filed, Becoming-V2 - part 1

[B-V2]

B-V2, you sound like you're doing all the right things. Definitely don't send the letter to her, as it likely won't do any good. Let her initiate contact, and just be friendly and pleasant toward her when she does. Sounds like you're dong well with your GAL activities and adjusting your life to get rid of the habits that weren't contributing to your happiness. You've obviously done your research! The trick now is to stay on course and not deviate from this path. She may or may not come around, but as you noted, you can at least focus on yourself and your own happiness for the future.

Hello Ahoy: thank you for having posted in my thread. Me doing all the right things: I wish, but I don't always do so.

I will not send any letter, and yes: I let her initiate contact, and being friendly and pleasant comes natural to me because the way I feel about her and I do not carry anger nor bitterness (sadness however: yes. However no need to show that, just PMA).
I still need to worker harder on my true listening capabilities, and make sure that my inner "Mr. Fixit" learns not to speak up/lecture after listening. Validate and move on with more listening, sometimes easier said than done...