All of that stuff that you wrote to 25yrsmlc shows that you still aren't listening.
Just being around, validating what your W says (by just nodding your head and agreeing to them without understanding what she's saying), hoping that she just accepts you back, isn't going to change anything.
One BIG issue is the C one. You keep dancing around the question of actually going.
Omg i seriously feel like a lost cause.. i feel like im trying and trying but its just not how its meant to be done.. ok mrbind please give me a example..
Put yourself in my shoes..
Wife says.. i just want to be happy.. find myself and focus on everything i missed out on...
Now tell me if im wrong but my understanding is..
She is miserable because of how i been actong so i need to stop all that makes her upset or doesnt work.. she feels trapped and cant go out and do what she wants because im controlling and she is scared to go because ill say something..so i need to shut up and tell her to enjoy herself and make her feel comfortable doing what she wants to do.
She feels likr she has to spend time woth me hence why she feels she has neglected her interests.. so i need to encourage her indirectly to go out and find her interests or find some together..
If im wrong here please tell me what you would gather from her statement.
