Not much progress

[MrBond]

"Too many guys on here are acting like whimps and letting their wives and OM s carry on like we are weak Pu$$ies ."

That's your interpretation. Just because the LBS doesn't physically confront the OP doesn't mean they're pussies. Not to mention it's illegal.

"This is not for everyone but the OM had no reason to back down"

Seriously? You don't see why he would? Your SON attacked him too. That was probably more messed up than you attacking him.

"I dont condone violence but I honestly say I was beyond control."

And what if you had accidentally killed him? What if your son did? There are too many incidences of that happening in the news that you don't seem to be bothered by.

"However please realize I am a good man and never assaulted anyone in the past"

Until now. So you are no longer a "good man".

"and I was truly sorry my son witnessed that and Ive talked to him extensively about how thats not the way to solve problems ."

Sure doesn't sound like it the way you're bragging about it in your posts.

"And I am in no way suggesting that every LBS go out and beat up the AP but I am suggesting that the AP is a lot bigger problem than is suggested on this forum."

Then you haven't learned anything. Not only on this forum but in statistic after statistic, it shows that the majority of A's fizzle out on their own. That's because it's not the A that causes the breakup of the M. It's the individuals in the M that is the cause of the breakup. Not only have you not learned to change (which includes letting go of anger and resentment), you've left a lifelong mark on your son. If you think he's going to forget what you did and that he won't do that in his own relationships, you're incredibly naive.

Look, I understand how you felt. Hell, when my W was in her own A, I felt like beating up the OM also. EVERYONE feels that way. Just because they choose not to doesn't make them a pussy.

I can guarantee you that if the OM is out of the picture because of what you did, she'll find someone else.

Why are you even here? If you want a D, you might as well fill out the papers yourself and end it. Make it a clean break.