Thanks for that, Starsky, the infidelity portion of my thread hasn't been addressed in quite some time as the focus has been more on me and my areas for growth. I shouldn't have interrupted MDU's need for you except that what's going on with her appears so relevant to trying to sort out my own husband's state of mind. The bullet she took yesterday I took several months ago. But I find your point of view really enlightening and I didn't come to DB till way late in the game so it's helpful to see where I went wrong and where I had no possibility of succeeding given the circumstances.
(where I said "another company" should have read "another continent" -- but I have no idea how often he interacts with her electronically)
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
