I'm probably the last person you wanna hear from huh ???
I also, know exactly what you are dealing with. It is that loss of innocence with them. What was once stable, is no longer...
To add to what the Rican said above...
The way it was explained to me, was that YOU are the enemy right now. Everything that YOU stand for, is the part of her life that she wants to explore.
You can't hold 'em that tight, or you will push her away.
What she wants vs. what she needs, are two very different things, and the tighter that you hold, the more that she is gonna want to find out exactly what those things are.
And as much as you wanna protect her, at some point, you need to loosen the slack a bit, and trust what you have already instilled onto her, and just guide her if and when things go astray a bit...
You need to stay strong within YOURSELF, and allow her to learn these life lessons as they come to her. Not as you protect her from them...
Cause if you are always there to pick her up, she will never learn how to deal with them on her own....
Hell, I still struggle with that greatly. I wanna protect my little girl, and keep her from harm. I just have recently realized that I cannot do that, and I want for her to become self-sufficient in her life. And protecting her, teaches her nothing about that.....
I told Eric the other day, that your Daughter is half you, and half of her Mother. And she knows exactly what your half represents. And with the way that her Mother has changed recently, she NEEDS to find that out too....
Also, HER world has been thrown upside down too, not just you and her Mothers...
She needs an outlet, and time to adjust too...
Stay with her Matt, just step back a bit for now....
