Maybe, maybe not. I will only find out by demanding passwords. Problem is if she's not ready "yet" then I've basically blown the R- I can't back down or accept anything less as that will make me lose all credibility- which means no choice but full steam ahead into D mediation proceedings. High stakes, yet again.
What I'm trying to wrap my head around is what I actually gain by demanding transparency- I can hack her phone if I really wanted to- so to me it seems to me the answer is that I'm trying to gain a commitment that she is committed to working on the M. Interesting for me to demand that from her when I'm not even sure I am ready to jump in with both feet to the R process given all the hurt so far. Then again, I'm not the cheating spouse.
Me: 45 W:43 M: 15, T:21 2 Kids- S-14, D-12 A Started: 10/2013 Discovered as EA: 6/2014, as PA: 7/2014 A changing, not ending Start DB'ing 9/2014 Same house, same bed
