In limbo, need to figure out next steps (thread #5

[shodan]

Got it. People are saying pressure is bad. Clearly, moving towards a D is putting pressure on her to make a decision. I know she is waffling right now. Based on her travel schedule, she will not have been in NYC for ~3 weeks. So she is not seeing the OM. But of course, I know she is talking and texting with him.

I am being nice, kind and positive. I probably over did it on the "grand pronouncements", which as everyone has pointed out, will make her feel more guilty and bad about herself, which could force her away from me. But I am standing by the fact that I am not sharing her with anyone else and have no other choice but to pursue a D.

In fact, today she said that she cannot make a mediator meeting on Thursday. She has client meetings/calls. I told her that I would go on my own, even though she needs to be there, and then would work to schedule another meeting when I get back from my business trip next week. So while my words may demonstrate that I am "needy", my actions are moving straight forward towards divorce.

In the end, I sense that she wants time. But if I allow her time, she will just cake eat.