Painful (happy) memories keep plaguing me. We did so much over the years. It is hard to make new memories without the old infringing. Anyone else experience that?
Hi missmy, Yes, that is worse than losing your "love", losing your best friend. I miss that way more than the romantic part, which I think is one of the reasons that when others say "You will find someone new", it doesn't really mean much to me.
Yes, although you have been at this much longer than me, I have trouble making new memories without the old intruding. I find myself thinking how much my W would have enjoyed this or how she would have reacted to that. I can't tell you how to stop this or if it will last forever but I know you aren't alone. This is especially true when it comes to things that my D's are part of.
Matt, you put it very well about it being hard to lose your best friend and also about "finding someone new" is really hard to replace. Even though my children are now becoming adults (they were fairly young when this started), they try to avoid doing anything we used to before this happened. It would probably be easier if we hadn't done so many different things as a family over the years.
Does anyone ever find the need to apologize to your spouse for your part in what went wrong? Not because you want them to forgive you or say anything at all but just to let them know you are genuinely sorry?
Does anyone ever find the need to apologize to your spouse for your part in what went wrong? Not because you want them to forgive you or say anything at all but just to let them know you are genuinely sorry?
Not any more. I already done that. Probably you did too?
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
Not really. As she "escaped", I didn't really have the chance to have that conversation. Of course, I went through all of the wrong ways of handling her departure, attempting to beg and plead not to break up our family, admitting to not being the best husband and asking her to stay but not a real discussion of I made mistakes and I am sincerely sorry because I didnt handle things in our marriage the way I should have.
This is the conversation one would want to have without the deep emotion, heart rendering situation when a marriage dissolves.
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God
