labug, thanks for sharing. Wow, this is why I come to DB.com everyday. Here is a brief synopsis that I found:

Originally Posted By: "The Stockdale Paradox"
You must retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties.

AND at the same time…

You must confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.


http://www.ndoherty.com/stockdale-paradox/

Me 38, WAW 30
D11 (former marriage)
S2
T 8 years
M 3 years
BD 8/20/23
S 8/20/23