I can tell you - there are no reliable stats about any of this - I was just ruminating about this yesterday on Ahoy's thread. I work with stats and data all day long too, and I can tell you I've looked. And the problem is that the stats that do exist have too wide of a pool. After the BD, I can tell you a lot of people in my life were flabbergasted that I didn't immediately file for divorce. There are lots of people in the world like that and they get included in all the stats.
As much as we say there are so many similarities between all of our situations, there is lots of difference and nuance too - so there is no apples to apples comparison available.
For me anyway, I realized that looking for stats is not helpful and probably hinders detaching. I'm forcing myself to let it go, much to the disappointment of my inner data geek.
