Thanks to everyone who chimed in . Well I got news for ya'll . Shes still at home and OM has told her he doesnt think its going to work between them and he wants to go back to his wife and try again . Guess Dawgy took a gamble and it paid off . Too many guys on here are acting like whimps and letting their wives and OM s carry on like we are weak Pu$$ies . I got very tired of it . Now I know there s no guarantee that the wife will stay . But my message got through to the OM very clear . This is not for everyone but the OM had no reason to back down while I was detached and i could see things progressing to the point she wanted to move in with him .
I dont condone violence but I honestly say I was beyond control . My emotions have been in constant turmoil for almost a year . No wonder I lost it . This is a small victory but far from where I want to be .
As for an apology HA! not gonna happen . I cant believe some of you would suggest such a thing . Think about what your saying people . DBing does work to a certain point but I truly believe not everything in the DBing book is going to work for each sitch .

Mr Bond I realize you are a serious vet here and I wouldnt expect you or anyone on here to condone what I did . However please realize I am a good man and never assaulted anyone in the past and I was truly sorry my son witnessed that and Ive talked to him extensively about how thats not the way to solve problems .And I am in no way suggesting that every LBS go out and beat up the AP but I am suggesting that the AP is a lot bigger problem than is suggested on this forum . Dawgy

Me 45 W 45
Son 16 Son 14
Married 23 together 27
W threatened sep several times
W still at home
A discovered Mar 17 2014
A ended DEC 2 ( skeptical )