Hi daring. I oscillate too. I think we all do. Pretty normal I’d say.
I like to accept all those feelings of hurt and anger, then stand back as far as I can and look at the sitch from a purely rational, non-emotional angle. As you are well aware, emotions come and go!
What are all your options here? How do you suppose each would play out, now and in the future? Just something I like to think about.
I like knowing that I can bail out of my M at any time. That is one of my options.
Just a reminder: Our spouses are not doing this TO us, they’re doing it FOR them. I’m convinced they HAVE TO... And I do believe part of them doesn't want to, which is why they're still partially in.
Good job on standing up and requesting better communication regarding the kids… that wasn’t anti DB at all. Actually, it makes you look strong and attractive.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
